I had someone ask me the question ” Can you or any one make me happy please?” When I heard this at first I was surprised. But did the quick thinking, and didn’t answer to fast, in fact I didn’t answer it at all. The way I see it, just a Damned if I do, and or damned if I didn’t answer. So I quit while I was a head. But that didn’t stop me from wondering about that question and how funny it was to be asked in the first place.
Isn’t life supposed to be experienced? Rather than having it work out as expected? Success is not guaranteed just by showing up, but in having to make some effort in getting there. At times we get short-changed in some goals we have for ourself’s. That’s why life should be experienced! I say. The good, the bad, and the indifferent??
Some people must look at the experience of life, as getting to one goal and then to another, or at the least having successfully gotten to a goal, as the point of measuring up one self for success or happiness? But what if it doesn’t come as fast as we wish for? Can we still find happiness? What if life gives us a delay in getting there? It doesn’t mean that we will never get there, or does it? Is life stacked against us? Is it?
We all have our own up’s and downs in life. But whether we stay up and or down is more of a choice we make on our own! If we always look to the negative side of life, then we may not even be try, in getting after our goals or even letting ourself dream them. But having too much of a positive out look may bring us to unrealistic views in life as well. Thus when we get knocked down, depression may set in. Setting ourself’s up for a let down, just as we are met with unseen challenges. This is what its like to swing back and forth, between the up’s and downs. So how do we just stay kind of in the middle of the road, on these moods?
Some may feel like setting smaller goals? But I find these people are in need of instant gratification, as a way of finding self-worth, and a worthwhile goal for their efforts. Still others are looking for people who will help them get there. But are these just followers of sorts who fancy themself’s as leaders? Not that we don’t need help from others at times, we shouldn’t expect them to help in order to succeed.
We have lots to learn from the successful people in our world. All we need to do, is follow their success, and learn how they got there, in order to find our success. Yes I do think my success is different from yours, or anyone else’s. The first steps of success is learning the art of dreaming. Each of us dreams differently, and has diffident dreams. So success is not just getting to one thing, or having the same things!
Example of todays success:
Butt loads of money! Nice indeed to wish for, it makes it a lot easier to be able to pay the bills! To also have the things of money like, homes, cars, vacations, women/men, getting to be on TV, and not having much to worry about, simply because you have butt loads of money. You may say “It’s all good!” right? But then you find you are just a target. Having friends from grade school, or people who you don’t even know! Who will then call themself’s your friend. Just looking for free hand outs? Funny how it is when other people see you in having money, they easily come to believe that you should also be willing to buy their friendship. The government will also look to you as a villan, for having money, calling you the greedy rich! Sounds like more worries in having money, then when you were just looking for more money? Besides look at all of the movie stars who have drug, or alcohol problems, and relationships that only last long enough to spend all of the moneys they have, or just staying in these relationships long enough, just to get better divorce deals. Only the lawyers then will get about 1/3 to 1/2 of what the take is in the deal. So now you have now come full circle. Are you still looking to success as defined as getting to, or having,” butt loads of money”?
Just an example I know. It comes down to management of all we do, or have in life. But what we do with the unexpected things that come up in life? How do we handle it? Is that the true measure of success? You know give a man a fish or teach a man a fish. It doesn’t make much sence to me to worry too much about getting to a goal or goals we set for ourselves. Enjoy the trip along the way in getting there. As long as you’re doing something. Like working at it! That’s the most important thing! Getting there is just the mile marker, in finding a new place to fish.
” The greatest sin in life isn’t in getting knocked down! But in staying down!” Quote unknown to me, but you may have heard it before.
In the end, it isn’t what we have, or what we loose in life. That makes us happy or unhappy. It is not just in the joy of our ups, nor is it in the hating of our downs, that leads to our happiness. It’s not even in the getting to our goals, that leads to our happiness in the future. Well maybe just short-term happiness that is? No! I think it is in the attitudes we have and those we express in living our lives. It’s the attitudes that give us the inner strength to get up when knocked down, to take the next step, and enjoy the trip along the way, to share in the joys with someone else who looks like they may need it. To strengthen ourself’s by a positive attitudes. That will also give us the strength to carry those who have all but have given up on their dreams, as well as giving us the strength to share a gift of our dreams with a stranger.
Positive attitudes are the secret to happiness. You can gain the world and yet still feel alone! In this place and time, we share these moments, with everyone we come in contact with in life. It is how others see us then, or the attitudes we express. That will make the difference, in our journey through life. Making it then as good as it can be.
Expect nothing other than an equal opportunity to chase your dreams in life. Do not believe the fallacy that everyone will and should have equal out comes, through unequal efforts in life!
Remember! Charity resets the attitude when we get to big for our britches! It also reminds us that the only thing we totally control in life, is our choices, our actions, our attitudes.
Maybe then we may choose to ware something other than spandex, thus relieving the squeezing pressure on our brains. That would make me happy. How about you?
Happiness to all! All the best!